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Full-time writer. Father. Bald as a baby’s bottom.

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“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” — Oscar Wilde

My bio

As I write this, I’m sitting at my make-shift desk sipping coffee and typing on a tiny laptop perched atop an empty cardboard box. It’s a completely ugly set up, but I love it.

It’s my favorite place in my house. It’s where all my childhood dreams of being a full-time writer finally came true.

I’m Christopher Kokoski, pronounced Co-Co-Ski. Just imagine drinking hot cocoa while skiing down a snowy slope.

But never do that in real life. It’s a terrible idea.

How your partner’s past can unlock your future together.

Man and woman talking through cups and string — 5 Surprising Reasons To Talk About Your Partner’s Past Relationships
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Talking with your partner about past relationships and sexual exploits can supercharge your relationship.

I'll come right out and admit that talking about my partner's past relationships is not my favorite conversation.

I doubt it's anyone's favorite conversation, but I'm probably more hesitant than most. Why? Most likely due to insecurities rooted in childhood feelings of abandonment.

Whoa, that got deep quick.

I’ve done a TON of work on myself over my 42 years. In the last 10 years, especially.

However, over the last 12 months, I've discovered five good reasons you should talk about your partner's past relationships.


Target untapped topics like a pro

Woman drinking coffee and writing on a laptop — 7 Google Tricks To Find Better Keywords
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I use seven methods to find better keywords with Google.

So far, these methods have earned me first page rankings for many of my articles and over $7,000.

I apply these same seven strategies to discover low competition, high traffic keywords to build out my portfolio of websites. You can, too.

Here are the seven methods.

1) The Alphabet Method

Anyone who writes or blogs for a living probably has heard of the alphabet method. This process is also called the Google autocomplete method of finding keywords.

I use it weekly, so this is definitely a hallmark of my overall strategy.

Essentially, you open…

The benefits far outweigh the costs.

A computer in the foreground and a group of people talking in the background — 5 Reasons Content Creators Should Do Less, Outsource More
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For a very long time, I hesitated to outsource anything related to content creation.

When I reflect on my reasons, they tend to all come back to a reluctance based on misguided fear that asking for help somehow diminished my art. If I didn’t create everything myself, I thought, then I was somehow cheating.

That all changed when I experienced a “light bulb” moment about outsourcing.

Forced to outsource due to limited time, I suddenly realized there were five really great reasons to do less and outsource more.

“If you deprive yourself of outsourcing and your competitors do not, you’re…

Good men, hard truth, and what high-quality men value

Bearded man with glasses looking to the side — The Surprising Reason Most Women Can’t Find A Good Man
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Many women say they can’t find a good man — and there is a very good reason why.

The reason might surprise you, offend you, or enlighten you. Before we get into the reason, it’s probably helpful for me to offer a disclaimer.

This article might not be easy to read. If you don’t come at it with an open mind, you might even get angry. That’s okay. I get it. That doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s wrong.

But, still, you might not want to read it.

This article is written with deep love and respect for everyone, especially women…

The disturbingly true TikTok trend.

Screenshots of TikTok videos about burying dead bodies — TikTok Teaches You How To Dispose of Dead Bodies
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I stumbled into a disturbing side of TikTok the other night that shows you how to dispose of bodies.

The first video I watched started out vaguely talking about getting rid of bodies, but didn’t go so far as to say “This is how you get away with murder.” The overall tone of the video made me wonder if the man talking referred to hunting animals.

However, he just didn’t want TikTok to shadow ban him.

That’s when things got really weird.

The Dark Belly of TikTok

He was actually giving what appears to be pretty solid advice. Then I watched more videos and read…

You may not agree with my relationship boundaries.

Close up of a woman’s mouth — Is Oral Sex Cheating? (Unpopular Opinion)
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Is oral sex cheating?

You might be thinking, “Duh! Of course, it’s cheating!” However, it might not be considered cheating in polyamorous or open relationships.

That’s the point.

What about cuddling or kissing between platonic friends of the gender your partner prefers? What about close friendships with exes?

Each of us possesses our individual opinions, boundaries, and preferences. Unfortunately, sometimes we clap back with judgment to invalidate other people’s boundaries.

That’s not cool.

Here’s why any of this matters: As long as you aren’t hurting anyone, your relationship boundaries are okay. …

It’s not what I expected

Pink table with a top-down view of a steaming cup of coffee, for I tried sex-coffee — Here’s what happened.
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I recently tried Sex Coffee.

While researching another article, I came across the concept of Sex Coffee. At first, I didn’t know what to think about it and I definitely didn’t know if it would actually work.

So I thought I would perform a field test with my girlfriend.

Here’s what happened.

Disclaimer: In this article, I briefly describe my personal experience. This information is not intended to serve as health advice. As always, consult a licensed doctor about the possible benefits and side effects of caffeine.

What is Sex Coffee?

Sex Coffee is a specific coffee recipe to increase your libido and allegedly…

And how you can, too.

A man in a blue hoodie performing a magic trick with a deck of cards — How I Use Unfair Advantages to Succeed as a Content Creator
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I recently watched a YouTube video by Ali Abdaal, who shared a three-step formula for success as a content creator.

The formula is Work + Luck + Unfair Advantages = Success.

As soon as I heard it, I knew I had to write this article. I completely agree with Abdaal, as this formula has worked for me over and over again throughout my life.

It’s also working for me right now as I build a portfolio of websites and a YouTube channel.

Everything you create requires hard work. Success demands time and energy mastering the skills needed for the platform…

Christopher Kokoski

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