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Full-time writer. Father. Bald as a baby’s bottom.

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“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” — Oscar Wilde

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As I write this, I’m sitting at my make-shift desk sipping coffee and typing on a tiny laptop perched atop an empty cardboard box. It’s a completely ugly set up, but I love it.

It’s my favorite place in my house. It’s where all my childhood dreams of being a full-time writer finally came true.

I’m Christopher Kokoski, pronounced Co-Co-Ski. Just imagine drinking hot cocoa while skiing down a snowy slope.

But never do that in real life. It’s a terrible idea.

The upside, downside, and sexy side of Twitter

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Recently, I discovered something about Twitter that I had no idea existed.

Maybe because I’m naive. Maybe because my engagement on Twitter didn’t trigger the algorithm to show me this side of the social media platform. Whatever the reason, I stumbled upon Sex Twitter.

While doing some topic research for articles, I entered the general word “sex” into my research tool. One of the terms that showed up was Sex Twitter — with an enormous amount of monthly searches.

Curious, I clicked on the term to find out exactly what it meant. …

Couples who play together, stay together.

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It’s time to step up your sex game.

If you and your partner want to add some adventurous play into your sex lives, you should absolutely try the Amazon sex position.

I didn’t even know of this position until recently. It’s one of the most physically demanding, creative, and potentially satisfying sex positions.

Essentially, the position combines the cowboy/cowgirl position and the missionary position. The partner with a penis or dildo lays on their back with their knees pulled to their chest (think of a cannonball jump at a swimming pool).

Usually, the vulva having partner is on top, straddling…

The content strategy that works for me

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Over the last six months, I’ve used five content types to scale my beginner blog to between 7,000 - 10,000 page views per month.

It’s been a monumental climb for me. I struggled for years to figure out a process that actually worked. All the gurus sold me shortcuts, but I found that sticking to a simple game plan worked best for me. Looking back at my life, it’s what has always worked for me: study successful people who are already getting the results you want and copy their strategies.

“Success leaves clues” is one of my favorite quotes by…

How to improve dramatic fight scenes in your story

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Sometimes writing feels like literary cardio.

I’m revisiting and revising a fight scene from my novel Past Lives, the first book in a series of the same name. In this post, I thought I’d share with you five ways I’m improving it.

Fight scenes are typically associated with thriller, mystery, and fantasy stories. However, when you dig a little deeper, all genres include them.

And if you’re going to write a fight scene, you might as well make it memorable, even unforgettable. At the very least, you might want to make it indispensable to the plot.

Here are five ingenious…

#3. Phonebooth at EPCOT

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When you're in the mood, you’re not going to let small details like location and logistics stop your mojo.

Most of us have performed the necessary yoga gymnastics to get it on in a car. But what about other, less obvious places?

Apparently, some people will have sex anywhere. Think about that the next time you eat crumbs off your neighbor’s kitchen counter.

According to a study by Eden Fantasys:

  • 58% of respondents said that having sex somewhere other than their bed significantly increases the happiness in their relationships.
  • 70% said that having sex in adventurous places made them feel…

Advice from my best blogging month ever

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I just made my first $2,000 in one month with blogging— here’s what I learned.

I’m not going to tell you to write every day (I didn’t), promote like crazy (I did less marketing this month), or publish in big publications (most of my money didn’t come from this source).

What I am going to share with you are five fresh lessons I’ve learned.

Let’s get to it.

1. Get an amazing girlfriend

It probably sounds like I’m joking, but I’m absolutely not.

My apologies if you already have a girlfriend, wife, or partner. Get an amazing girlfriend anyway. I really think one of the…

Questions from a bona fide word nerd

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I fangirl over great sentences.

As a self-admitted word nerd, I’m in love with language. I enjoy how words, phrases, and sentences blend to create colorful semantic stories and experiences.

But there are some English words that just don’t make any damn sense.

Here are five of them.

Abbreviation Is Ironic

Why is abbreviation such a long word?

The whole point of abbreviation is to shorten words so that they take less time to say and read. So, which bright historical scholar came up with such a long word to mean shortening things?

Even the abbreviations of abbreviation — abbr., abbrv., …

A complete resource for brainstorming ideas, writing, editing, publishing, and promoting content

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Just the other day I realized that I have listed my writing tools in a number of different articles. I thought It would be nice to combine all of those tools into one solid list.

I’ll break down the tools by category of how I use them. Some tools I use to come up with ideas, some for writing, and some for editing, etc.

If I’ve written about the tool before, I’ll link to that article.

None of the links in this list are affiliate links. These are just the tools I like and use for writing on multiple platforms…

Definitions matter in life and love.

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How do you define sex?

If you had to write down your personal definition for sex, what would you say? What would you include or exclude? It seems like a straightforward question, but the details can get tricky.

How you define sex can matter for your personal choices, health, relationships, and communication with friends and lovers.

In short, definitions matter.

No One Really Knows

One of the main difficulties with defining sex is that many adults and even experts don’t necessarily agree.

A 2010 study by the Kinsley Institute concluded that “There was no universal consensus on which behaviors constituted having ‘had sex’.”


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