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Full-time writer. Father. Bald as a baby’s bottom.

A very bald christopher kokoski standing in front of a very red door.
A very bald christopher kokoski standing in front of a very red door.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” — Oscar Wilde

My bio

As I write this, I’m sitting at my make-shift desk sipping coffee and typing on a tiny laptop perched atop an empty cardboard box. It’s a completely ugly set up, but I love it.

It’s my favorite place in my house. It’s where all my childhood dreams of being a full-time writer finally came true.

I’m Christopher Kokoski, pronounced Co-Co-Ski. Just imagine drinking hot cocoa while skiing down a snowy slope.

But never do that in real life. It’s a terrible idea.


A simple equation based on data helps you find your number

Jumble of numbers for I figured out how many more times you will have sex with your partner
Jumble of numbers for I figured out how many more times you will have sex with your partner

Many couples obsess over their sex number.

When I say “sex number,” I mean how many people they or their partner has slept with over the course of their life. I even wrote an article about why your sex number matters.

However, there’s an even more important sex number that nobody talks about. Maybe because nobody knows. I figured out how many times you’ll have sex with your partner and the truth can set your sex life free.

So, let’s look at a simple equation that helped me figure it out so that you can calculate your sex number, too.


I almost went insane.

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Cartoon bomb with panicked face and lit fuse for I Didn’t Masturbate for 6 Months -Here’s What Happened

I didn’t masturbate or have sex for 6 months.

I realize that’s not a celibate life sentence, but it’s certainly the longest I ever went without sexual stimulation in my life. Since I was a kid anyway. I started masturbating later than most people I know, but I quickly made up for the lost time.

Why did I go release-free for half a year? Partly because I wanted to experiment with self-control.

I had heard so much about the benefits of no-fap (not masturbating).

According to Heathline.com:

We’ll start with higher testosterone levels. This is what fueled the original Reddit…


Boost your income opportunity with simple changes to your recommended tools page

A neon sign that says “super helpful.”
A neon sign that says “super helpful.”

There is an overlooked page on many websites that is often a hidden gold mine of profits.

Spoiler: it’s your website’s resource page.

The resource page is also called the recommended tools page, gear page, or “start here” page. Your resource page is typically where you recommend products and services, but you can also list the personal services you offer.

I didn’t create a resource page for a long time — way too long, in retrospect.

For my future websites, I’m going to make them immediately. …


Unhealthy couple goals that subtly destroy relationships.

Person in gas mask and rain jacket holds an umbrella for 5 Popular Relationship Goals That Are Surprisingly Toxic
Person in gas mask and rain jacket holds an umbrella for 5 Popular Relationship Goals That Are Surprisingly Toxic

Some #couplegoals are downright toxic.

While it may seem like any couple goal is better than no goal, there are actually surprisingly toxic goals common in many modern relationships. In the high-dopamine rush of popularity, it’s easy to overlook them because they’ve been normalized.

This has always been the case.

Generations ago, society normalized what we now consider “regular dating.” We think current dating is normal and right mostly because it’s what we know.

But everything isn’t what it seems.

Slip into your hazmat suit, because here are five relationship goals that are surprisingly toxic.

Online Hype Meets Insta-Famous

There’s nothing wrong with posting…


Your crash course in delighting your reader, writing better articles, and building your fanbase

Woman reading a book and drinking coffee for How To Write Reader-Centered Articles
Woman reading a book and drinking coffee for How To Write Reader-Centered Articles

The questions I hear asked repeatedly in writing circles come down to:

  • How do I write longer articles?
  • How do I monetize articles?
  • How do I write articles faster?

Those are important questions. However, what’s missing is the most important writing question of all: how to write reader-centered articles?

I get it, though. At one time, I couldn’t fathom how anyone could write more than a thousand words on any subject. Monetization? I’ve always been interested in making money from my writing.

And, sadly, I’m a sluggishly slow writer.

I cry inside a little bit every time I hear another…


The Garden is a remote compound in Layfette, Tennessee

Images of TikTokers associated with The Garden community from Insider.com for my article on The Cat-Eating Cult on TikTok
Images of TikTokers associated with The Garden community from Insider.com for my article on The Cat-Eating Cult on TikTok

There is a cult on TikTok that eats cats.

The group is known as The Garden, and it’s blown up on social media. It’s all over TikTok and YouTube. There’s even reputedly a Netflix or Vice documentary being filmed.

While members of The Garden repeatedly deny that it is a cult, some travelers who have visited the compound have warned people of the community’s extreme views including genocide, racism, animal cruelty, and complete lack of security protocols.

More than one person claims that The Garden is surrounded by so-called “sundown towns,” which means towns deemed unsafe for people of color…


RELATIONSHIPS

Social distance technology readied us for isolation — and might help us recover

Back of man’s head, headphones, and video game computer in background for How Video Games Prepared Us For The Pandemic
Back of man’s head, headphones, and video game computer in background for How Video Games Prepared Us For The Pandemic

When I stepped up to the wall of cartridges, everything I believed about video games changed.

I remember thinking it was going to be a quick trip to the gaming store, just in and out, then back home to play video games with my son. But that’s not what happened.

Not even close.

All I wanted was a game that my son and I could play together in the same room. Something to expand our quality time, support us during the COVID-19 quarantine, and relieve our pandemic stress.

When I learned shocked me — and convinced me that video games…


Wisdom from the Warsaw hustler on how to live your best life.

Man in suit in front of Polish flag for How the Rebellious Polish Mindset of Cwaniak Can Help You Succeed
Man in suit in front of Polish flag for How the Rebellious Polish Mindset of Cwaniak Can Help You Succeed

As someone with Polish ancestry, I grew up hearing all of the popular Polish jokes about mindlessness and stupidity — how do you keep a Polish person busy for hours? Put them in a circular room and tell them to go stand in the corner.

If I’m honest, for more than once in my life, I’ve felt ashamed of my Polish heritage.

Then, I decided to embrace my past. I started with a little research.

What I found blew my mind. Far from a study in stupidity, the history of Polish people is packed with harrowing stories of resilience, grit…


Don’t believe the hype about conflict in healthy relationships.

Two fingers painted to look like a happy couple hugging each other for Happy Couples Don’t Fight Fair
Two fingers painted to look like a happy couple hugging each other for Happy Couples Don’t Fight Fair

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year and we haven’t had a single fight.

Let me explain.

I’m not saying we haven’t disagreed or engaged in uncomfortable conversations. I’m not saying we exist in a fairytale land of rainbows and unicorns.

Yet, what I am saying is that this is my first drama-free relationship. There are zero arguments, zero fights. As someone obsessed with studying relationships for nearly three decades, I know what people say about relationships void of conflict.

Experts like to say that if couples don’t fight, they aren’t being real.

There’s truth to that statement…

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